Marriages are hard work. I think anyone who’s been married for a week knows that. If you’re not willing to put effort into your marriage, it’s probably not going to last long. Let’s be honest here. If you don’t put effort into the upkeep of your house, it falls to shambles quickly, right? It’s the same with your marriage. My husband and I have been married for ten years. I honestly didn’t know anything about marriage when we got married. My husband is an amazing man to have put up with what he’s had to put up with to tell the truth. There was a time about seven years ago when we were thisclose to getting a divorce. Praise the Lord it didn’t happen. I’ve learned quite a bit since then. I’m sharing five things that every marriage needs. They’re not in any particular order. If you feel you’re lacking in any of these areas, I’ve got something in the works to help you. You can subscribe to my newsletter so you’ll be the first to know when this something is ready.
The 5 Ingredients
Each of these ingredients is vital to a strong and healthy marriage. No one is perfect so don’t beat yourself up if you struggle. Life is a journey and we can work to make it better. Besides that, no one is perfect.
Being honest encompasses more than being honest with each other. It also means being honest with yourself. Are you truly being honest with your partner if you aren’t being honest with yourself?
Yelling and growling at each other do not count as communication. True communication is talking and listening. Don’t interrupt each other. Repeat back what you’re hearing in your own words to make sure you’re understanding what your partner is saying. Communication is key to making sure you both know who’s responsible for what.
I don’t know about you, but my husband is my best friend. We tell each other everything. I also love to hang out with him and will stay up late chattering his ear off. It wasn’t always like that. I tell him all my hopes and dreams and he tells me his. Hang out and have fun. Get silly. You don’t have to paint each other’s nails and do each other’s hair (unless you’re into that kind of thing), but get to really know one another. What makes each of you tick, what do you like to do for fun, what dreams do you have for the future?
In a marriage, a husband and wife have two different roles to play. You each have different strengths and weaknesses. It’s very important not to put your partner down because they don’t do something as well as you. Would you respect someone who builds you up or tears you down? Who supports you or steps all over you?
Decide each and every day you’re committed to this marriage and you’ll give it your all. Marriage is a choice. It requires you to commit. Not being committed results in divorce.
Are you ready for the Marriage Challenge?
So the something I mentioned earlier is the Marriage Challenge I will set up. For five weeks, I challenge you to consciously work on one of these areas each week. I’m not leaving you hanging! Sign up below and as soon as the challenge is ready I will send you emails each week to guide you along the way. You can also join the Marriage Challenge group on Facebook for support and encouragement from others taking the Challenge. You’ll find the link in the confirmation email.